Group EFT tapping…

 

 

I was always wanting to conduct a group EFT tapping class and then this time I decided to go for it. Some or the other thing kept coming in my way and I kept on postponing the thought in my mind. But this time, I did it ( plan to do this on all full moons this year) and was completely in awe…

We started the session with some parents and some friends who know me. Everything about EFT was explained and then we started tapping and noting down each person’s challenge areas or problems. Till now, everything was good and smooth and then as we started tapping, the energy of the room got heavier and heavier and stuffy and claaaaaaustrooooooophooooooobic…. There was a release of the pent up emotions and the room was full of the negative emotional outpour that our bodies were ejecting into the space around us…

We tapped and tapped and tapped… And then we also did the Tarzan tapping and then I started sensing that the energies were getting better. The room felt lighter, energized and breathing again. We went on and ended wi

th a lot of lovely massage for each other.


I was really astonished by the honest, raw but fierce and courageous confessions that each one made and how beautifully each one opened. It takes a whole lot of effort to drop the emotional armor that we wear day in and day out. Everyone was so courageous to speak their very raw feelings just because all that they wanted was a space of non-judgment. We all were in a hotspot of acceptance and non-judgment.

It was an amazing experience to feel and witness…(I can’t thank my stars enough to do what I am doing, feel really blessed to fill my days with such marvelous experiences…). It just made it so very vividly crystal clear to me that each one of us just wants to fiercely love our own self and then as this love spills from our hearts, we effortlessly pass it on to the others around us. That is the innate nature of all of us!!!

It takes a whole of courage and mindfulness to become aware that we need to give time to ourselves. Especially so because there are kids to be taken care of, household chores to be attended to, deadlines to be completed and 24 hours are not enough. We are all busy playing the blame game with our problems and forget that we need to take our power back.
I was so happy that each one who came for the group tapping at least became aware that they are powerful beyond measure and this strength grows when we allow ourselves to shine our light and to just BE…

We ended our session feeling so high on energy but still balanced and calm within.

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Learning lessons of life from little ones…

 

 

I have been witnessing amazing experiences since the last one week.

One parent came to me and she was really unhappy that her son is having behavior problems. The child (8-year-old) had a diagnosis of Autism and communicates by using just a few words.

You know what I have this amazing sense to feel people by their energies. When a family enters my consultation room, sometimes I feel pins all over my body and I know that the family is really really stressed.

And then there are others who visit me, who are passing through the same experience as the others but they carry with them a blanket of peace and calm and I am also sucked into it.

There are others who come who comb my “being” with vibrations of deep insights revealing strong, intense and raw truths about life.

So, I love to nurture this sense in me and love to sense people and their energies. So, when the door opens, my energy antennae start sensing – is it heavy, light or sorted or confused or just peace…

Coming back to this parent who was very unhappy with her son, she told me that he keeps coming to her and says the word “smile” and keeps on repeating till she says the word or actually smiles. She wanted me to help her with this behavior.

When we traced back to the source of the behavior, it was arising out of the fear that mom will get angry and so he kept saying “smile” to ensure that mom was happy with him even if he did something inappropriate. In this case, it was the mom’s reaction that was affecting the child. When she was more stressed, the word “smile” would come even more.

We worked on the behavior but what surprised me was how beautifully the child was like a barometer to the mom’s stress. The days she was calmer, the word “smile” did not come but the days she was stressed, he would say the word many times. And thus, it was not a lot of work on the child but on the parents.

And then, the next day, another child with the same behavior- the word used was “Are you happy?”

And that repeated with the third child too. This time, the words were “Happy, Happy, happy?”

And you know what, the energy that I sense with all of these kids was FEAR- as soon as they say the words above, my heart would feel heavy and sink. They all just wanted their parents to feel happy when they failed to regulate their behaviors. All of these kids had the same energy signature to their words. They were all trying to say “I am sorry, I messed up. I am sorry but I do not know how to repair my behavior and I am stuck with the negative emotions unable to come out of them, please help me.”

Somedays I feel that parenting is like an exam. The exam for which we really prepared to the best of our capacity but when the question paper appeared, we went blank. Everything is there in the mind but nothing comes out on paper”. So even when parents know what to do and how to deal with the behavior, they go blank and REACT instead of UNDERSTANDING their child.

Phewww…these little ones who enter my consultation room (and the one in my house) are teaching me the biggest lessons of my life(something that I can never learn in any college or from any book)…. and I love them for doing that!!!

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How to make my child listen to me ?

 

 

connection

 

 

Do you relate to these words??

My child hardly shares anything with me…
He just answers whatever that is asked and then there is a long pause…
We hardly share any experiences…as in we do not connect…our life is more about giving him what he wants during his day to day routine activities..seems transactional…dry without any emotions…
He was not like this in the past…
As time passed by, he is becoming more and more withdrawn and quiet…
I am getting to know him through social media- his Facebook posts and sometimes by checking his snapchat and WhatsApp messages…or sometimes by reading his diaries or notes…
It is very dangerous as I don’t know anything about my child…sometimes I am shocked to read what he writes about himself or rather what he feels about himself
We stay in the same house but like strangers…
I want to help my child but somehow there are so many layers between us which have increased as time has passed by…
Can you please help us?
My child needs help or maybe we as parents need help?

The above statements are very commonly shared with me during most of my consultation sessions. And these are parents of kids who do not have any diagnosis and are neurotypical kids in regular schools.

And I am getting shocked each and every day.

When I ask parents, do you spend time with your child or your teenager?
They say that there is no time as their kids are overscheduled and there is absolutely no time to talk or chat.
There are so many classes and projects and exams and submissions and the list is endless…
Besides, the parents are also busy with their own schedules and getting the time for kids is REALLY difficult.
They say that they somehow manage the daily chores on time which is also VERY stressful as on some days they have to stay back in office to complete deadlines…

When I ask them, why didn’t they take help or work on it in the past when it started happening?
They say that they never thought that this is where they will land up.

Parents usually come to me when their kid’s grades start deteriorating very gradually and then a time comes when the focus, attention, and organization skills are lost.

The prescription that I give to most parents is to give one-hour appointment to your child. A time where you do nothing -no phone or checking notification, no household task, no nothing doing but giving 100% to your child.

And then the parents say that they do so but in that one hour they do not listen to their child but
PREACH,
JUDGE,
LABEL,
SUGGEST
and
GIVE SOLUTIONS.

Teenagers who come to me tell me that
“I just want someone to listen to me. Just LISTEN and not suggest or comment or judge but my parents do not have the time.”

And then slowly and gradually these kids and teenagers stop sharing because they are sick of listening to suggestions and they have no one to listen to.

They then start looking for someone who will listen to them on their WhatsApp, snapchat or Facebook windows (for which they are blamed that the children do not listen and are only on the internet with their phones)

And when someone does LISTEN (listen to listen and not to reply) to them, they are sucked into it because they finally get someone to share things with. But they are finally kids and teenagers and need mentoring from their parents. They get abused or bullied sometimes in their attempt to find people who will listen to them as everyone in the world does not have good intentions.

So actually, the main aim is to give them a listening ear – just listening without gadgets or household chores and listening NOT TO ANSWER
but
to show that you care and love them – the way they are NOW……….
rather than the way, they will be as you expect them to be.

It is a very small little tip and requires a lot of mindfulness…. because we as parents sometimes get into the compulsive mode of instructing-
Keep your shoes in place…
Did you do your homework…
Any message from teacher…..
Anything to be taken to class tomorrow…
and that is all…..

It just ends there whereas there is so much more. And being their role models, we are moulding them like us.

I do something called “Pearl” and “Thorn” of the day. The pearls collected are the things that really made me feel great and the thorns are the things that really made me feel miserable at the end of the day. The child then does it and our role as a parent is to help them squeeze the juice out of the thorns – there is always a silver lining to everything… so there are messages and learnings that every negative situation and emotions bring into our life.

Our role as parents is to help these little ones in our life decode those messages every time they happen and see them as opportunities for growth and evolution…

So the next time, I talk to my son, I first ask myself
Do I really need to give this instruction to my child?
Do I really need to remind him what I am reminding?
Am I helping him evolve or making him dependent?
Is it really my fear and my anxiety that I am passing on him?

I actually need to relax and be mindful and my child will follow because I am the best role model…. and my child sees me and copies rather than just listen to me…

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Growing and evolving as a parent…. :)

As my son grows each day, I am growing with him in my role as a parent. In the beginning, I was practicing to juggle between my work and my role as a mom. In doing so, the balance was very well achieved but somewhere something went wrong because unknowingly my motherly love got mixed with the toxic emotion of stress, this toxic emotion came in from somewhere and it just sneaked in. I really don’t remember when it came in and got mixed with the color of my love …..

Maybe sometimes, I used to over do being a mum. I used to work when my son was at school or sleeping and tax myself. I was really being very hard on myself in trying to become a good mom. I would be with him all the time but gradually there was a separation- I was physically there with him but mentally doing all the stuff that was supposed to be done while he was playing. And all this happened so slowly and suddenly that I didn’t even realise that my work was creeping in and taking space of me as a mom.
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I very clearly remember a time when I used to sit with him and give him my complete attention (away from TV/mobile/ipad) only while he was studying or doing academics. I used to pin point every single mistake that he would make and completely ignore on all the wonderful work completed by him, even the stars given by teachers !!!! I used to scold him for one single crooked letter in the full page of beautifully formed alphabets. This made him really angry and he used to throw tantrums. I got even more frustrated with these new tantrums. In my perspective, he was making mistakes and writing crooked letters, and when corrected, he was throwing tantrums. I thought I was failing as a mom….

I was blessed by an opportunity where it dawned on me that I am frustrated with myself and not on my son. I started realising that I am not doing things that I used to love doing before (because I was a mom now !!!! as if its a life imprisonment…)

I changed and started doing things which I loved doing, buying things I liked, eating things I liked and pampering myself. As I felt loved and got filled with love, it became easier for me to pass that love to my son and other family members. I believe that taking care of myself is taking care of my son. I cannot have a life of deprivation and sacrifice to make others happy. Happiness begins with me. When I am full of it, I give it out. So I started giving myself a lot of “me time”.

I feel that there has to be a lot of emphasis on giving “free time” for the kids also. In this time, the child does all that he wants to do.

Also, “special time” is equally important where the parent spends time with the child engaging and commenting on what the child is doing.

I remember times when I used to quickly work on replying to emails and completing my household chores when my son was watching TV. I later realised which I do now is watch TV with him, laugh on those little jokes and ads which are important to him. All that he wants is me and my attention which I can give by showing interest in doing things that he likes to do. So now I combine “free time” with “special time” without intruding his space. And let me correct myself here, he does not need my attention- he needs my love which any child wants from his parents.

So now, once I have given myself the “me time”, giving “special time” to my child is easy. And then the special time is not just with academics, it is while playing down in the park, watching TV, cooking food, serving food, while playing games on ipad or playing board games, while just doing some silly things which don’t make sense.

Today and now, I am able to separate the toxic emotion from the pure emotion of love. I now see my son’s homework and do not pin point only to the mistakes rather very casually tell him that it is important to learn from them and not repeat them again. Secondly, the frustration of making him study is gone and my son says “lets read together”. It so happens that I am tired and he still wants to go on reading because this special time is wrapped in a blanket of “love” that he gets from me and that I get by engaging in “me” time.

Reena Singh

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Matrix Reimprinting

After completing my EFT training, I was keen to know about the Matrix Reimprinting program and how it helps. I was told that EFT is the base and that the matrix is a level above the EFT. EFT helps in removing the negative memories and negative beliefs but matrix helps to reimprint the same memory or the belief with a new pleasant one. In such a case, when the person attempts to remember the negative memory, only the new imprinted one is retrieved.

Most of this sounded good as a theory and I wanted to learn this so that I could blend this at Khushi. I wanted the therapies at Khushi to be more holistic. Whenever, parents would come to me for therapy, I used to sense that the family dynamics is shaken up because of the diagnosis and also in general because of stress. I also believe that the plant (child) will grow and develop if the soil (family) is enriched and provides all the nutrients (positive emotions in the form of love and appreciation) that are needed.

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So here I was in this training which was led by Dr. Rangana Rupavi Chaudhari. She usually teaches the concept and then does a practical demonstration. She asked the participants about who will be keen to do the practical demonstration with her on the “hot seat”. I decided to go not realizing what I was entering into. When I did the process, I was shocked, amazed and even disoriented for a short while, I was automatically regressed to two memories which had a grip on me so strong that I felt them everyday in every waking moment of my life. Those memories had changed my personality and the way I expressed myself.

I first went into a memory when I was just coming out of my mom’s birth canal. Another one which came up was when I was in my mom’s womb, five months old. There were harsh words spoken to my mom which felt like a current of impulses entering into my being while I lay there helpless and numb but still protected in her womb. The same harsh words were spoken while I was just coming out of the birth canal and my mom was scared before the umbilical cord was cut. That feeling of fear and the deep sigh stayed with me till now.

The entire experience was like an eye opener and I came out of the whole experience feeling “free”.
The entire memory has changed and so also is my personality after that session. I am very grateful to have been a part of the session which helped me so very much. I got to know myself and it was nice getting introduced to my own TRUE self. I experienced my first “satori” moment and had an “out of the body” experience in this exercise.

I did the technique with many parents who come to me at Khushi and its amazing how easily every one regressed back into their childhood memories, womb memories or memories of the past life. It is a lovely process of cleaning – and a gentle process of clearing. After, all those negative memories are clean, all that is left is only peace and calm…… And more than that, I see the kids doing well in therapy because our emotion is just energy in motion. When we are stuck with them, the energy is stuck. Post the matrix sessions, the family dynamics got better, the ability to deal with stress got better. Parents passed feelings of love and positivity to the kids because they felt positive and loved. This has impacted the therapy gains and kids are improving faster. It is like taking care of the plant and also ensuring that the soil is enriched….its just amazing!!!

Reena Singh.

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Earthing …..

Earthing

My son was invited for a birthday party and after dropping him to his friends party, I and my husband had nothing to do. We decided to go to the beach and just take a walk in the sand. We walked for nearly two hours in the water and then came back home. This beach walk was done after many years.

I was feeling very light and calm and some feeling which cannot be described. There was this state of bliss and rapture. I didn’t know what was happening but told my husband that there is something good that I am feeling.

We planned to go to Juhu beach again -this time with our son. Since my son wanted to just have fun in the waves, we allowed him to just sleep in the water, jump over the waves or dig out shells from the sand. While my son was busy doing all of this, I stood with my husband in the sand enjoying the feel of my feet sinking deeper with each wave. It was a lot of fun just being there and enjoying the sunset.

It was around two hours now but my son wanted to make some sand castles. We sat there for around an hour doing something with the sand, had some yummy corn and headed home. After reaching home, I was again painted and immersed with this feeling of calm and peace. I was getting addicted to this feeling and it accelerated my work efficiency. I saw my son being more calmer and peaceful too. I was curious to understand what was the reason for this feeling.
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Tried reading about earthing and then realized that I was “grounded” and “earthed” because I allowed my feet to touch the bare skin of mother earth. I know it sounds strange but we have covered mother earth with cemented roads, paver blocks, tiles and so many things. At around this same time I came across this book called Earthing-The Most important health discovery ever by Clinton Ober and Stephen Sinatra which gave me more inputs about earthing.

I realised that earthing helped my body to achieve an optimum electrical state. Our planet Gaiea is a battery which is getting constantly charged by the sun rays on the outside and the molten core from inside. A battery is needed to run every car or appliance and that same way, our human body and all living beings are getting constantly charged by the rhythmic pulsations of the earths natural energy. The rhythm of the earth keeps us in rhythm.

The sole of our feet are richly covered with 1300 nerve endings per square inch. The foot is the plug through which we get connected to the earth to get charged. It kind of extracts and sucks in the energy from mother earth.

Technically, earthing helps our bodies to maintain the natural electrical state which promotes optimum health. Maintaining contact with the ground allows body to receive the negative electrons from the surface of the earth.These negative electrons are the most powerful antioxidants known. By neutralizing the free radicals in our body, antioxidants help to ease inflammation as well as cell and tissue damage.

Just as our clocks and watches need batteries, the same way our biological clock needs to be continually calibrated by the pulse of the earth that governs the circadian rhythms of all life on earth.If you go back to the past, most of the activities we did were done in contact with the mother earth. But now in the present world, we are insulated from earth which means we are not getting charged which leads to electrical imbalance in our bodies which gives rise to ill health.

I remember my dad used to tell me to walk on the grass early in the morning, he never knew why but his ancestors told him it helped. My grand-mom used to tell me that I should try and walk barefoot on the mud, it helps!!! My grand mom always said that soil soothes, cleanses and heals.

Earthing/ grounding help us to stay healthy and fit. But how do we do this

1. Walk on the grassy or the muddy areas bare feet.
2. Expose any part of your skin to any natural water body such as a lake, pond, river or an ocean. Walking bare feet in this water body also helps.
3. Lean on to a tree

Mother earth just wants us to hug her and she is ready to bestow all her healing properties on us. Why are we disowning her and embracing ill health?

Reena Singh

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My journey with EFT

So while I was learning a special class called “Face the Fear” to become a consultant of Rhythmic Movement training, I was introduced to tapping. I learnt that there are various points on our body which when tapped helps to release blocked emotions. There are points called “meridians” which are the energy highways in our body. “Highways…….energy highways….. I was really confused and at the same time equally interested to understand about them and find some way to learn about them.

It was a long journey for me to understand more about tapping -I learnt that it came from TFT and EFT, these words seemed so much greek and latin to me. I googled and found that the tapping came from “thought field therapy”and also used in “emotion freedom techniques”. Still, nothing made sense and my inquisitiveness to learn more about “tapping” was growing to an extent that I could not contain it. I was now really getting impulsive to learn more about it.

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I contacted a lot of people and then met Dr.Rangna Chowdhari who introduced me to EFT in her level 1 and 2 class. I was very happy that finally I will get to learn about the various points on which I will learn to do the tapping but she kept tapping on similar points over and over again while speaking different things. I was puzzled. I asked my “impulsive” self to calm down and relax and trust the process. I told myself that I was there for a reason and that I really needed to believe in my instructor.

Over the next two days in the 3 days of training, I saw a lot of changes in myself but the “Ms. Skeptic” in me kept fighting and telling me that it was not helping. After completing the 3 days, I came out as a different person who was no longer carrying weight of guilt/ hurt/ worry. I realised that I was really tired carrying so much weight which gave me breathlessness (for which I was advised a pump), dust allergy and lactose intolerance. I loved “kheer” but every single spoon of “kheer” used to have a thunder and lightning in my stomach followed by massive diarrhoea. Ufff….it was a tragic life situation where I used to literally feel that I will have to take another physical form on this earth to eat “kheer”. Also, old dust and spider webs would give me flu and incessant sneezing and literally drain me out like how we drain water out of sponge. Oh my God…it was a pain !!! But I had learnt to live with it and accepted myself with the way I was. I have always been trekking ever since I was in Class XI but climbing up the slope used to make me breathless. I used to start wheezing and after that used to wait that I will soon be breathless and die. There used to be a block of big rock which used to get stuck in my windpipe leaving no space for the oxygen to pass into my lungs.

Now, I was out of the EFT training and thought that I was better since I had released all the pain and hurt that I have been carrying. After a week, my mom had made “kheer”. Believe me, I really could not resist. There was fight in me -one telling me to have just a spoon and forget about diarrhoea and the other one was a strict teacher inside me teaching that I was behaving like a child. It was too much to resist and I had a spoonful of “kheer”-closed my mouth and felt the bliss in my mouth, Oh my goodness, the taste was out of the world. As soon as I gulped it down my throat and before it could reach my stomach, the teacher in me was angry and screaming at me for this foolishness. I was really sad and also guilty as I sat on a sofa in a corner waiting for the thunder and the lightning. I was waiting and waiting and waiting….. as the screams and cries got louder as time passed by. Now it was half an hour and I was fine, usually I start getting my symptoms in a matter of just 5 minutes. I was wondering “whats wrong or right with me?”. Now it was more than 3 hours and no symptoms. I was even scared to think that I am free of that allergy….The next day, the “child” in me decided to plunge even more and I had a bowl of “kheer” waiting for something to happen but …………..NOTHING!!! I had to believe that I was free. All my allergy was because of the negative emotions that I had been carrying with me since my childhood.

Its been more than 6 months now…I eat all the food stuff that I was once “allergic” to and enjoy the thunder and lightning in the monsoon -not in my stomach.

And I am sure you can guess by now, that my dust allergy is also ……….Swoooosh ….GONE.

This simple looking tapping really goes deeper and does all the cleaning that is needed inside. It has cleaned me completely. And now,I am so intrigued and impressed by EFT that I have become a practitioner and doing it to the parents who come to me at Khushi. I also do surrogate tapping for the kids with special needs and also group tapping to help each other through “borrowing benefits”.

Sounds amazing but not real…..to me even now !!!

Reena Singh

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Primitive reflexes and RMT -What exactly is it ?

We all learnt about reflexes when we were in school- they were called as reflex actions.

Some examples of reflexes are

blinking of our eyes when something comes close to our eyes,
sneezing,
coughing,
Shivering
yawning

These reflexes are automatic and happen without your thinking-it is something on which you do not have control upon. They are protective in nature and they help us. Reflexes are also present in animals.

So what are Primitive reflexes?

· As you know the word primitive means crude or old.
· Reflex means something that happens without our conscious control like sneezing.
· And as I link the words together, a primitive reflex means something which is very crude and happens automatically which is not under your control.

In very simple terms, it means like using an old bulky slow computer of the 80’s in the age of sleek and fast processing laptops. Child is born with these reflexes until they mature by one year of age and the control of these primitive reflexes are released and the higher centers of brain take over. As the connections develop, the HOLD of the primitive reflexes on the body decreases. But if the connections do not develop, then these reflexes stay active and do not allow the other systems to express themselves.

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It is like many ministers of various states fighting to exert control. Each minister is in control of a particular state (part of the brain) which is assigned to them. These ministers have to be in sync and manage the functioning of the country (brain). But instead of working together to bring about efficient functioning of the country (brain), they all dominate their own self defined rules which makes it difficult for the country to prosper. To develop the synchronicity, these primitive reflexes need to be integrated and connections need to be established with higher centres. This happens when we do primitive reflex integration.

So what happens in primitive reflex integration?

It means allowing your child’s system to upgrade from old bulky slow computer of the 80’s to sleek and fast processing laptops. It also means that now all the ministers are in complete coordination with each other to bring about increased efficiency.

I am sure you will agree that the functionality is very different and so it will be for your child. You will be able to release the control of primitive reflexes of the lower brain centers through integration as the brain starts linking up. As the control releases, more independence and higher level control is achieved which leads to more of desirable behaviors by your child

You may be wondering how the retained primitive reflex manifests . So here it is

Fear Paralysis Reflex- This causes shut down of the systems when faced with stress or any kind of change. It causes mutism, shyness in social situations, depressions, constantly feeling overwhelmed, very fearful of any kind of change- fear of separation from a loved one, sleep and eating disorders.

Moro reflex – Retained Moro reflex causes rigid behaviour patterns, hypersentivity to light, sound, taste, touch or smell, resistant to changes or transitions, allergic to specific food substances, fluctuations from extreme hyperactivity to extreme fatigue, reading and writing difficulties.

ATNR – Retained ATNR causes difficulties in reading, writing and math skills. It also causes confused handedness – uses both hands for writing, eating etc.

SGR – Retained SGR reflex causes difficulties like bed wetting and wriggling behaviors ( like ants in the pants) which causes hyperactivity and fidgety behaviours making it difficult to pay attention.

TLR – Retained TLR reflex causes difficulties with space, understanding the relations of space such as up-down, right -left, difficulty in judging space and the speed of movement, toe walking, hunched posture and coordination difficulties.

What is RMT?

RMT is a short form for Rhythmic Movement training. It was developed by a psychiatrist Dr. Harold Bloomberg in 1980’s on the basis of work of Kerstin Linde when he saw that rhythmic movements had remarkable differences in his patients with psychiatric conditions. He also studies with other movement specialists. Moira Dempsey, an Australian Educational and Developmental kinesiologist became interested in the role of retained reflexes in learning and behavioural challenges in the mid 1990’s. Moira Dempsey met Dr. Blomberg in 2003 and started using the movements herself and with clients. She noticed remarkable results.

When the rhythmic movements are given, it helps to develop connections in the brain which were not developed before. These movements help in linking the different parts of the brain with each other which helps in efficient functioning of the brain. It also helps to integrate primitive reflexes.

If there has to be an analogy then, I see the rhythmic movements to be like water and fertilizers for the plant to grow. As the movements are done, new connections grow just like branches of a plant and help to synchronise the functioning of the brain.

The movements need to be planned by a therapist who is trained in RMT. Two or three movements are started initially and changed every 15 days to a month depending on how the body responds to them. Results can be seen within 10 days to a month. To maintain the results, the movements need to be done for a period of 12 -18 months. We combine RMT at khushi with other treatment approaches.

If there is a history of seizures the movements have to be very carefully monitored and done with neurologist’s opinion. Also, caution needs to be taken while doing it with kids with Downs syndrome.

When the brain starts linking up because of the rhythmic movements, the body starts releasing toxins and muscle tension. This causes side effects which may be physical or emotional in nature. These effects suggest that linking is happening and helping. However, if the side effects are not manageable, then you need to follow up with your consultant and change or decrease the movements as needed.

RMT is not necessarily to be done for kids but it can be done for anyone who has active primitive reflexes.

Reena Singh

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Lets understand Sensory Integration!

It is a term coined by the Occupational therapist Jean Ayres

Before we go into the theory of Sensory integration, lets read a story on how sensory integration helps in forming beautiful and wonderful memories of childhood!!!

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Ruhie is a little girl who has just come back from school and she jumps in the puddles. Sometimes the water in the puddles was lots and sometimes it was really mucky. Ruhie would sit into the puddle and dig her hands into the muck. With these hands, she pushed her hair behind as they came over her face. Enjoying the gooey muck, she knew how to zoom the lenses of her eyes and focus only on the swing in the midst of so many children running and jumping around, sometimes occluding her view of the swing. Her vision was sharp like that of the eagle’s who will grab her swing immediately as someone vacated it. Then she would sit on the swing and enjoy the movement till it was full for her. And then amongst the sounds of birds chirping and the children playing, she hears her mom calling. So Ruhie runs back home. As soon as she entered the house the smell of the yummy food pulled her towards the kitchen when she was asked to wash her hands and face. And then once all clean, she got to relish the delicious meal. She ends her day by finishing her homework.

You must be wondering what Sensory integration has to do with all of the above- All that Ruhie did above was sensory integration. Read this along to know as I explain.

1. Proprioception and jumping in the puddles –
Ruhie could jump because she has an intact proprioceptive sense that helped her to decide how hard or gently to jump.
Proprioceptors are present in all the joints of our body. They help us to understand the position of body in space and also helps to grade the movement.

2. Tactile sense and Jumping in the mucky water-
Gave Ruhie the tactile input.
Tactile sense is the sense of touch which tells us what are we touching or where are we getting touched.
It also tells us the pressure of the input.
Touch helps us to understand the world.

3. Vestibular sense and swinging –
Helped Ruhie develop vestibular sense.
This is the sense which is present in our inner ears. It tells us about movement of body in space and also the kind of movement. So it tells us whether we are on a swing or a car or a roller coaster ride and guess what ….it also tells the speed.

4. Vision-
While Ruhie played in the muck or the mud, her eyes were glued on the swing.
This is the visual system which tells us how to focus on what we want and ignore other distractions.

5. Auditory-
While Ruhie played amongst the sounds of children shouting and screaming, crow cawing away, she was very clearly aware of her mom calling her!!
This means that we have the ability to separate ambient sounds from focal sounds.

6. Olfactory-is the sense of smell which helped Ruhie know what was cooked for dinner.

7. Gustatory- is the sense of taste helped her to relish the food.

8. Interoception- It is the sense responsible for detecting internal regulation responses, such as breathing, hunger-thirst, bowel bladder and heart rate cycle.

What else was happening
1. Attention- as you read all of the things above, it must be clear about how attention is a by-product or fruit of the 8 systems working effectively.
2. Motor planning- this was needed for Ruhie to grab her swing whenever someone vacated it- the speed and the coordination of her body to run quickly. Motor planning is needed to wash hands, feet and face after she finished playing. And also to complete her home work. So a lot of motor planning is needed in our day to day tasks.
3. State of arousal- Even though Ruhie was very tired after school, playing in the playground was something that she could not never miss out. She could SELF REGULATE and keep herself active in the playground. But once she was home, she was dull and lazy- she had control over the knobs of arousal which helped her to be dull or active.

All the 8 senses were integrated, Ruhie will grow up challenging her limits and exploring her surroundings. She will want to re-live it.

Now what happens when the senses are not integrated- lets consider Ruhie again. One thing to remember is that whenever there is a sensory processing disorder- the sense will work less(hypo), more (hyper) instead of just right (optimal).

1. Jumping in the puddle may not happen because of poor motor planning or there may be a big need to just jump irrespective of anything else.
2. Jumping in the puddle may be avoided because of the texture of the mud or water.
3. Touching mucky or gooey things may be just impossible because of tactile defensiveness. Or the child seeks just that irrespective of anything else. Because of the tactile sense of being more or less, tastes are either seeked or avoided making them into picky eaters.
4. Swinging may be avoided completely or it may be the only thing that is seeked.
5. Because the child gets absorbed into the input, attention suffers.
6. Visual attention or looking around and focussing on what is needed may be difficult because of poor filtering.
7. Listening to mom’s call or any sound directed towards the child maybe ignored because the child is again absorbed into one of the senses intensely seeking it or completely avoiding it.
8. Lot of smell seeking is there or child is completely oblivious about it.
9. And then I am sure by now, you know what happens to play and forming connections. Everything is broken and shattered because there is no integration of senses.
10. There is poor self regulation or regulation of arousal states making it really difficult to fall asleep – child may fall into patterns of no sleeping, difficulty falling asleep, irregular timings of sleep and so on.
11. And then you can imagine what it will be like to live with an interoceptive system which does not tell you when you are hungry and how hungry are you. How much to eat and when to stop eating? This system also signals when to go to pee and poop.

So, coming back to sensory integration- it is a process by which all the senses work together to make sense of the world – wanting to live and enjoy the world and seek and make connections.

And when the senses are not integrated, or when an individual has a sensory processing disorder, life is difficult !!!!

The good news is that Sensory integration can be facilitated by occupational therapists by providing “just right” opportunities and kids can have a lovely childhood with memories to cherish for lifetime!!!

Reena Singh

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So how exactly should I control my child’s screen time?

Do you remember your childhood days?
I remember playing till I was dead tired….just running around!!
Sometimes pretend play and sometimes board games!!!
Then there was exploring nature and climbing trees…
So many of those games where hands and feet were dirty with mud and muck…
Sometimes watching the birds go home and sometimes gazing at the stars…
I was so very connected and rooted to mother earth.
I got the precious memories of being rooted and embracing my mother earth!

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And here comes me today, coming back home in the evening to greet my son and getting back to my whatsapp (screen) or my facebook (screen) !!!
Oh yes! The emails (screen) need to be answered also and so many calls to be returned.
And then I think I should just chill and relax ..so I put on the TV( Screen).
And then you know I have my sacred book of scriptures on my ipad (screen) so I will pray too!
And when thats done and my son plays down, I can read some great books on my kindle (screen)!!

And as my son plays around while I do all of the above,
I teach him that he is not supposed to watch too much TV!!
I teach him that he is not supposed to play on his ipad and that he should control himself and limit the time he spends on it!
I teach him that he is not supposed to see videos on my phone!!
I teach him that he is supposed to look at me and talk rather than answer while watching TV!!!

But is my son going to learn from WHAT I DO OR WHAT I TALK?????
I really need to think …
I know of all the ill-effects that screen time has on kids …
But is it not true for me????
Do I need to get back to my mother earth ?
Don’t I need to put a curfew on my screen time?
Don’t I need to stop all my screen work and look at him when he talks to me ?
Am I just blaming him or I need to be blamed?

I really need to think about this….AND WHAT DO YOU THINK?

Reena Singh

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